Being a parent isn’t the easiest job. There is no manual to help guide us. When problems arise at school, it can become frustrating for both you and your child. Many times, children attempt to hide school issues from parents. This can happen from fear of getting in trouble, worrying about telling on others, and many more reason. As parents, it is our job to pay attention to our children to try and catch abnormal behavior, whether small or big. If you are worried about your child’s recent behavior, here are symptoms your child may be having problems at school: A child who usually cooperates with adults suddenly begins to be disobedient at school. This is often the first indication of learning problems in preschool and kindergarten. It is typically not a child’s goal to annoy, disrespect, or frustrate you. They are trying to figure out how to be their own person and where they fit into the world and feel significant. The more you proactively give your child constructive ways to experience personal power, the more cooperative they will be. Point out your child’s successes and be sure to point out when they are improving. A child who usually gets along well with other children gets into fights at school, hurts other children, or takes their things. Your child could be having anger issues and is not sure how to handle it. Your child has trouble staying still or seated during class. Your child could be bored because they already know the material and just need something to challenge them. Another option is to talk to your teacher or doctor about getting them tested for ADHD. ADHD can easily be treated and worked with to help your child learn the best. Your child’s grades are dropping or have never been good. Your child could be what is referred to as a shut-down learner. They have become academically discouraged or disconnected from school over time. This could have many causes that add up to a shut-down learner (cracks in the foundation + time + lack of understanding + strained family communication). Your child does well in most subjects but suddenly is failing or struggling to keep up in a subject. This is often a sign that your child needs extra help in a certain subject. Try helping him more in the subject or consider a tudor. Your child complains of headaches, stomachaches or other physical problems at school or shortly after coming home from school. Your child frequently refuses to go to school or becomes very distressed about going to school. Try talking with your child about what is bothering them. Maybe they are getting bullied in school or are having trouble with a subject and don’t want to ask for help. Your child seems to have trouble remembering things or learning new things, or your child seems to learn well at home, but does poorly on tests at school. Another symptom with this is your child becomes quieter than usual, seems discouraged, or doesn’t seem to try at schoolwork any more. Consider talking to your child’s teacher and having them tested for learning disabilities. If you are seeing these symptoms, speak with your child about what is going on to see if you can learn more about what is going on. Make sure to always remind your children that you are there whenever you need them, without fear of getting in trouble or getting others in trouble. At times, children feel they will get in trouble for things that many times they will not. If you have trouble getting answers from you child, reach out to their teacher(s) and dig for answers. Children cannot resolve these issues on their own, so try and find answers as soon as you can.
As our children grow older, they become an age where they begin to learn the concept of money. Don’t wait to teach your children until they are older, begin when they are first learning to count money in school. Starting young will help teach them tips that build skills for a lifetime. Here are a few ways to incorporate lessons about money into your children’s life. Giving Your Child an Allowance. Teaching how money is earned is an important. Speaking to your child about chores they can do around your home to earn an allowance. Every family is different on how much allowance is given and how much work needs to be done. When it comes to their allowance, make sure to talk to them about saving a part of their allowance. Children never want to save money so it may be necessary to enforce a rule of saving a percentage of amount of all money earned to teach important habits for life. When you begin a pattern of saving your money as your grow older, it sticks with you as an adult. Play Monopoly or The Game of Life. Playing monopoly or The Game of Life may seem silly but these games create a wonderful opportunity to teach lessons on life. Money is needed to survive in the real world and these games bring in this reality in a great way. You will not just be teaching about money but spending time with your child at the same time which every child will love. Ensure to talk about life lessons while playing these games to help them understand how money is earned and spent in life. Discuss the cost of items and share experiences from your life or others you know to bring them into perspective. Bring Your Child Shopping. Bring your child with you to the store for your weekly or bi-weekly grocery shopping. Work with them to manage your list and budget throughout your shopping. I love grocery stores that have calculators on their carts but these are rarely seen any more so bring a calculator or let your child use your calculator on your phone to add up the items as you go to ensure you keep in your budget. It is amazing to put in perspective trying to not spend too much on needed items. Children know what they want when you go to the store, but to be part of this shopping allows them to learn how much these items cost. Show your child the different brands and the cost difference between them. Explain to them how much work was needed to earn this budgeted shopping money to put in perspective hard work with your grocery money. Encourage Your Child To Earn Money. As your children older, encourage them to start earning their own money. We all know those neighborhood kid side-jobs that we saw as a child. Whether mowing, babysitting, cleaning houses, yard work, and more, there are tons of opportunities for kids to earn extra cash! Teaching your child to go out and find ways to earn money when they want a more expensive item is a great way to teach them to strive for what they want and reach goals with money saving. Open A Saving Accounts. As adults, we know money in our pocket will burn through our pocket. Open your child a savings account to teach them to save and put money away where they cannot touch it to have for when they need. Saving money should be part of everything they do, so enforce a rule of saving a part of all money earned and received as a gift to help them reach savings goals. Find a number they want to save to and help them through going to the bank and putting their earned money in the bank. It is exciting for children to feel older through having an account and putting it away at the bank. Always remember to teach about life whenever you can. Life is tough and the lessons we can teach as parents is important.
As parents, it is so important to help our children as they learn to read. Our job is to help them grow the skills that they are working on to lead to reading growth. At times, it can be difficult to know where to begin when helping your new reader. If you are a parent who feels lost on where to begin with your growing reader, use some of these tips below: Remember to always go slow when beginning with your new reader. When first learning to read, you can never go slow enough, at times. Always keep this in mind as you help your child. Have your child read out loud the words from the book. Reading out loud is one of the best ways a younger reader can develop their skills. While reading out loud, have your child sound out each letter to help them put together words. The best way to start helping your child is through your local Library. Begin making weekly trips to the library where there are no distractions around. The library is a quiet, easy place for the two of you to concentrate and spend time together. Spending this time alone will help your child build their confidences and get them on the road to being a great reader. Many libraries have story nights which is great for your new reader. Having them listen to the story while following along to the words in the book. Find a book that comes with a CD to listen to in the car. Have them listen and read along to the story as it is read on the CD. You can always try to find a book that also comes with a CD. That makes car rides a little more fun. They can read the words as the story is being read. This will make road trips a little more fun and keep their minds and eyes in a book. This will also keep your younger ones learning too! This will open their minds up as much as your new reader! The more you get them interested in books, the better off they are! As you read together, begin going over what they read and talking about the story. Comprehension is a strong part of reading that leads to better reading skills. Ask your child questions about the story: Who was in the story? What happened in the story? Teaching your child to pay attention to the story as they read is important to their reading growth along with something that they will be tested on later on. If your child feels frustrated by the idea of remembering what they read, then take it slowly. Always remember to be there for your child as they read. Never read what they should be reading to get the work done quicker for your child. The first year of reading in school is one of the most important years. Finding new books at their reading level helps bring interest to your child. There are plenty of reading books to pick from at your local library and/or library.
Do you have a child you think is gifted and talented ? Through the New York school system, they have a the Gifted and Talented Program. To get into this program, you need to take a test that determines if you are eligible. This test includes both verbal tests from the OLSAT (Otis-Lennon School Ability Test) and nonverbal questions from the NNAT (Naglieri Nonverbal Ability Test). You should look over all the information with your child and have them practice the test that will be given through the available practice tests. This will help your child become familiar with what information they need and help them cut the stress and anxiety that your child may have! Testing begins between the ages of 4-7 for entry into grades K-3rd grade and determines eligibility for the NYC Gifted and Talented Program. There are a few steps you have to do in order to get your child in THE Gifted and Talented Schools. The first step to this process is submitting a “Request for Testing Form” (R.F.T) in the Fall of the Year before you would like your child to start participating in the Gifted and Talented Program. You can do this either online or in writing by completing the form in the appropriate Department of Education handbook and submitting it to your child’s public school or local Borough Enrollment Office. The deadlines are posted on the Department of Education’s website in late Fall. The city-wide testing for your child usually starts in January, and only children who have turned 4 years old can participate. You will be informed of your child’s score in early Spring, and IF your child is qualified for The Gifted and Talented Program, you will be sent an application. If your child scores in or above the 90th percentile, he or she will be invited to apply to a district G&T program. If your child scored in or above the 97th percentile, he or she will be invited to apply to a citywide Gifted and Talented program. Admission to the Gifted and Talented program is only guaranteed to incoming kindergartners and first graders who rank every district option on their application. There are no guarantees for city-wide spots, as there are more children who score in or above the 97th percentile than there are seats. Placement is based on sibling priority, test score (percentile rank), family preference and available seats. A lottery is held to determine who gets a spot if there are more applicants than spaces. The completed applications are usually due in late spring, and acceptance notifications are usually sent out in early summer. Remember, even though your child may score high, these tests are based off a percentages. Even though your child may get a high score, they may not be in the right percentile and therefore not get into the school of your choice. Be sure you have your child practice as much as they can! Learn more on their website.
Do you believe your child may be gifted and/or talented? Have began to look into the special programs that you can send them to? We wanted to take a few blogs to explain the process of looking more into the gifted and talented services. To begin, your child will need to take a few tests to determine their eligibility. These tests are for children 4-7 years of age. The tests consist of 3 parts: Verbal Selection, Otis-Lennon School Ability Test (OLSAT), and The Naglieri Nonverbal Ability Test (NNAT). The OLSAT test is verbal test that consists of about 30 questions (depending on the age of the child). These questions account for 50% of the student’s overall score. These verbal questions consist of 2 sections, Verbal Comprehension and Verbal Reasoning. Within these 2 categories are several, more specific question types revolving around: Verbal Comprehension Verbal Reasoning Following Directions Aural Reasoning Antonyms Arithmetic Reasoning Sentence Completion Word/Letter Matrix Sentence Arrangement Verbal Analogies Verbal Classification Inference The OLSAT test is used to measure the abilities related to the child’s success in school through testing critical thinking and reasoning skills. This test is intended to test memory, speed of thought and their ability to see patterns and their relationships. Questions for the OLSAT were selected to reflect the intellectual operations of cognition, convergent thinking, and evaluation. Students will have between 60 and 80 minutes to complete a 40-70 question test. This all depends on what level of the OLSAT test they are. When given to a younger child, the test will be given in a one-on-one level, while older children will take the test in a group setting. The test’s questions are arranged so that the questions do not become more difficult as the test progresses. Students earn points for each question they answer correctly, but they do not loose points for skipping or answering a question wrong. When the test is graded, your child is given a raw score, which provides the number of questions the child answered correctly. Once the raw score is calculated, it will then be converted to a School Ability Index Score (SAI). The SAI score is used to find what percentile the student falls into. The NNAT test is a nonverbal test that replaces the once Bracken Test in 21012. This test measures the abstract thinking skills and requires very little language to be spoken, therefore it is considered a better indicator of raw intelligence, as it does not matter if the child does not speak English as their first language. The NNAT test incorporates abstract shapes and designs that allow for an unbiased scoring regardless of a child’s primary language, education, and socioeconomic background. The NNAT is the 50% of the students overall score and consists of 38 multiple choice questions given in the allotted 30-minute time period. Every section becomes more difficult as it progresses, so it is a good idea to help your child become familiar with the type of questions asked prior to taking. There is a practice test available on the Gifted and Talented Program website that you can use to prepare your child. It is best to have your child practice the test 2-3 month before your child actually tests to help your child get the most of the test and do their best. The National Association for Gifted Children provides answers to many common questions that parents have about their child, the testing, and the program. Learn more on their website. Along with information and practice tests, the website provides information for your local affiliate resource to find more about testing dates, times, and more.
Having a child with ADHD can be hard as a parent, especially when it comes to school. Learn 5 simple strategies to help your ADHD child achieve success in school: The first step to helping your child achieve success is through making sure their teacher is aware of their ADHD. This information does not always get passed along the chain of teachers. Through informing their teacher, you can work together with them to be on the same page and work on the same goals. Inform their teacher of any medication the child may be on as well as they can watch and let you know how well the medication is doing for your child in during school hours. If there comes a point of the medication not working as well, the teacher can let you know of possible medication changes that may need to happen. Find ways to help your child learn to their fullest. Your child may need a few different goals than others, or more goals that are smaller. Making their goals smaller may make it easier for your child to reach their goals. Always make sure as goals are hit, you point them out and celebrate them. Even just a fun sticker or pencil to say GREAT JOB goes a long way. They need that praise. This way they feel like they are accomplishing something! This leads to them strive to reach more goals as children need to feel self-worth! When working during class time or at home, ensure to give them time. If something is too hard or they become frustrated, have them move on to the next question or problem. You can always come back to the hard ones later! During test time, if they are having problems concentrating, have them take a short walk to the drinking fountain. This short walk will help them clear their mind and walk off a little energy! This is a great plan to bring up to the teacher. Maybe during conference’s, or call or email. Not all teachers have dealt with the same degree and amount of ADHD children, so do not assume the teacher knows what is best for your child. Never do any work for your child. This may be frustrating for both of you, but there will be no success from you doing their work. If you are having a hard time, try stepping back and thinking of clues to help them find the answer. Make the clue’s easy to begin and as you move on give clues that are a little harder and require more thinking. This is a great way to help them catch on and learn how to find the answer on their own! Help your child stay organized. Children with ADHD are prone to being messy. Have your child put their work in different colored folders. If there is a project due, begin the work together. Work together to put all your child’s notes together and organized. Have your child work a little every day on their project. Talk everyday about how many days are left before their project is due to limits stress. The main thing to always remember with ADHD children is to always be patient! Their brains work different than ours and they need to take small breaks to stay focused. Every year, you will learn more and more about what works best for your child. Just always keep teachers and other adults in their life up-to-date with this information so your child can learn to their fullest.
Preparing for college is important for every student. There are many steps that need to be completed to help students prepare for this journey. Through beginning at the right time and accomplishing certain steps, college will approach with you just waiting for the acceptance letters. Follow our student guide to preparing for college, grade by grade. 9th Grade is the starting point for preparing for college.. This is the stepping stone year that will start you working towards your college goals. The first step in this grade is to meet your guidance counselor. This meeting can help you decide what your goals are and possibly what you want most from college. You are still young, so things may change. Getting a general idea and begin the process of brainstorming what it is you want to be after high school is important. Begin looking at different clubs or sports you like, as extracurricular activities are a great way to earn achievements, along with help you learn to set and achieve goals for yourself. Colleges love to these activities, along with your grades! These activities are a great way to look at receiving scholarships or grants! As we all know, good grades are vital and important for college. Make sure to start your year out in a good way through working on your grades and keep them this way throughout your high school years. Colleges go back to 9th grade and see what your marks are. Everyone wants to go to college, so make sure you prove to the school of your choice that you are able to work hard and get the good grades! 9th grade is also a time to think of how you spend your summer. Try volunteering somewhere or begin your 1st job! Having a job and volunteering is a way to add a little more responsibility to your life as well as learning to juggle more than one thing. It is ok cut back on your job or volunteering during the school year. Learning to manage your time and show school being important through minimizing your work time is a great way to show people you are growing up! 10th Grade is the grade you begin thinking about your SAT or ACT test. Begin by taking the PSAT test. This test is a great way of getting your name out to colleges before other students! Speak to your guidance counselor about the Plan Assessment Program that is offered by the American College Testing. This is a great way to show your testing ability as well as getting a glimpse at your study habits and how well they are working! Make sure to pick the right classes. Having the right classes is important to helping you achieve your goals. 11th Grade is an important year. If you haven’t yet, take the PSAT course in the Fall. This qualifies you for the National Merit Scholarship Program. This is program can help you earn money, which is wonderful when it comes to paying for school! This year is a great time to attend college fairs and/or college tours. Start thinking about what you want to be even along with what schools will help you accomplish your goals. This is a great time to begin collecting recommendation letters from teachers, bosses, and other individuals that you have worked with (for pay or no pay). Recommendation letters are wonderful for those college applications! Begin looking into your high school ranks and where you stand. This way if there is something that can be fixed, you can find and begin fixing it. 12th Grade is the time that you begin registering for your ACT or SAT tests which are necessary for college acceptances. Make sure you have requested (either by mail or online) that your test scores are sent to the colleges of your choice. Make sure your grades and activities are on track. Your grades do not need to be perfect, but they need to be good to help get into the colleges you need and want. If you feel you are not on track for doing well on your ACT or SAT tests, find and hire a tutor to help you prepare. Your test results can help make up for any classes you may have not done well in. Begin to finalize your top 5 college list. Gather the information from college visits, your interviews and research you have may have found. Be sure to apply to the schools you may feel are difficult to get into as well as schools you may think are easy. This is best way to assure you have a few different options available to you. Make sure to fill out all the forms needed and mark all the deadlines on a calendar so everything gets sent to the correct place on time. Make sure you notify all schools of your intent by May 1st. If you are not sure yet which school you want, try visiting a few school campus again and get a feel for what you truly want. Once you make that decision, make sure you send your deposit to your chosen school and ask your guidance counselor to send your final transcript to the college in June. Now is the time to enjoy the last little bit of what’s left before you start your next journey in life. Enjoy your high school years, but make sure you are working hard to keep up on everything! These are such important years of your life that affect your future.
